people come into my magical world and start to think that my magic is their magic. and despite being very clear about rules and guidelines that i put in place to make sure that everyone feels respected, many get ahead of themselves and they don’t do the ego and shadow work that they agreed to do. they don’t do the ego and shadow work it takes to be truly magical. they don’t extend equal reciprocity. and reciprocity isn’t just about handing out money because that’s an easy solution. reciprocity also looks like time and knowledge. and as we know, time is one of the most valuable things that we can give ourselves and others.
as they are enjoying the fruits of my magical world that i have worked so hard and sacrificed for, they start to show off to people in their life who never provided them anything more than mundane living, that so-called american dream. if they’re lucky it looks like a pig with lipstick, but it’s the same cookie cutter living and environments which also looks like good pay, a nice car, or a home. that’s not magic. many continue to try to show off to partners and family and friends with whom they’ve only established trauma bonds. the amount of time doesn’t make the relationship any healthier. it’s what it was built on. the foundation. and sometimes that trauma bonding looks like childhood trauma, betrayal, and toxic patterns.
magic is giving people the courage to take action. giving someone inspiration is not giving them the courage to actually take action. i often say that “my worst days are most people’s best days” and that i’m able to live every day as if it’s a vacation. when most partners or families or childhood friendships are unable to give them that. magic is an exhilarating energy. i’m able to get people to do things they always said that they wanted to do but never did. it could be as simple as riding a bike again as an adult. i make healing and change playful. i am able to give people what a therapist, partner, and family members couldn’t and can’t.